As one who is striving to be a Muslim (one in complete submission to God) and is a member of The Nation, I am often asked about things that Min. Farrakhan has said.
If you check the store on The Final Call website you will find THOUSANDS of lectures and speeches he has given so I can't always confirm whether he even said what I'm being asked about.
But I do know that the Minister speaks very well for himself and in defense of anything he has said.
So with that said, I want to offer this as good information to know regarding The Minister's position on what the mass media is attempting to do to diminish Black people's support of Sen. Obama and also a chance to read something published more than ten years ago about the Minister's alleged attack of The Pope.
I wish you all peace, sincerely.
Friday, February 29, 2008
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Whaaaaaaaa?
On Black America Web I see this:
Bobby Brown Agrees to Community Service
Date: Wednesday, February 27, 2008
By: The Associated Press, Associated Press
BROCKTON, Mass. (AP) Singer Bobby Brown will not face criminal charges after police said they found a small amount of cocaine in his possession.
Brown's attorney said Tuesday a Brockton District Court clerk magistrate found no probable cause to issue a criminal complaint, but recommended that Brown volunteer to mentor young people, which Brown wanted to do anyway.
First of all, I love me some Bobby. I've even been watching Gone Country just to see him. He is the most luvable drunkard, seriously. But I have a question for the judge. You want a man found to have cocaine in his possession to mentor young people?
Wha?
Bobby Brown Agrees to Community Service
Date: Wednesday, February 27, 2008
By: The Associated Press, Associated Press
BROCKTON, Mass. (AP) Singer Bobby Brown will not face criminal charges after police said they found a small amount of cocaine in his possession.
Brown's attorney said Tuesday a Brockton District Court clerk magistrate found no probable cause to issue a criminal complaint, but recommended that Brown volunteer to mentor young people, which Brown wanted to do anyway.
First of all, I love me some Bobby. I've even been watching Gone Country just to see him. He is the most luvable drunkard, seriously. But I have a question for the judge. You want a man found to have cocaine in his possession to mentor young people?
Wha?
Blogroll do over - Part 2
I graduated from high school in 1986 and hip hop was just coming to The D. I really remember staying up to listen to the radio after my mom went to bed so I could hear the mix shows around the time that Lodi Dodi (Slick Rick and Doug E. Fresh) came out. That had to be 1984 or so. But ever since, I've been hooked. I got deeper and deeper into it while in college. I saw Big Daddy Kane, Public Enemy, MC Lyte and others right on campus at Central State. I am one who does believe that hip hop is a culture, a mindset.
That's why I love Omi's spot. His movie and book reviews are from my perspective and I can relate. His analysis on current events, are always relate-able and so hip-hop. Of course I don't always agree, but it's always a good time and he's open to whatever you have to say.
Two of my passions are combined and turned into nothin' but love on D-Nice's spot. You all know D-Nice as the DJ from Boogie Down Productions (BDP). He was on the "Self Destruction" project and according to history reports, he helped write Lyte's rhyme. Well he is still a popular DJ and is now a professional photographer and he share's some of his work on his site. I have been into photography since I was in high school and have been dabbling at it ever since and I love to look at other peoples work. He has so many shots of rappers from days gone by and also the up and coming crew. I LOVE THIS SITE.
Both are a safe place to go and not be ashamed to love hip-hop. (Like I'd ever be ashamed...but you get my point).
Still more to come!
That's why I love Omi's spot. His movie and book reviews are from my perspective and I can relate. His analysis on current events, are always relate-able and so hip-hop. Of course I don't always agree, but it's always a good time and he's open to whatever you have to say.
Two of my passions are combined and turned into nothin' but love on D-Nice's spot. You all know D-Nice as the DJ from Boogie Down Productions (BDP). He was on the "Self Destruction" project and according to history reports, he helped write Lyte's rhyme. Well he is still a popular DJ and is now a professional photographer and he share's some of his work on his site. I have been into photography since I was in high school and have been dabbling at it ever since and I love to look at other peoples work. He has so many shots of rappers from days gone by and also the up and coming crew. I LOVE THIS SITE.
Both are a safe place to go and not be ashamed to love hip-hop. (Like I'd ever be ashamed...but you get my point).
Still more to come!
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Before this goes too far....
Hopefully anyone reading this blog knows full well that Min. Farrakhan did not "endorse" Sen. Obama. As a matter of FACT, last year, The Minister publicly gave the Senator permission to distance himself from him and any other controversial Black figure if it would make him the victor.
Yes, Sister P is a Muslim and member of The Nation. However, as a reasonably intelligent person who knows many brilliant Black men the age of Min. Farrakhan (74) I KNOW that he knows that his endorsement would only cause the mischief makers to attack Sen. Obama. Who, by the way, is currently being ridiculed for even having the middle name Hussein.
They are even trying to get Obama to distance himself from his own pastor. He's too smart for that. I love how news pundits have said that Obama "rejected the endorsement of Farrakhan" when he really said, "I denounce any statements he made that were anti-semitic." Get the difference? I heard, "If you think he said something against Jews, then I denounce that."
I personally think it would be a bad move for Sen. Obama to make a definitive move away from anyone Black. I believe that he has so much support because he in an independent thinker and if he buckled to pressure to make a symbolic gesture to distance himself, he'd come off looking shady.
Try again CNN! We've been Black for too long to fall for this crap.
Yes, Sister P is a Muslim and member of The Nation. However, as a reasonably intelligent person who knows many brilliant Black men the age of Min. Farrakhan (74) I KNOW that he knows that his endorsement would only cause the mischief makers to attack Sen. Obama. Who, by the way, is currently being ridiculed for even having the middle name Hussein.
They are even trying to get Obama to distance himself from his own pastor. He's too smart for that. I love how news pundits have said that Obama "rejected the endorsement of Farrakhan" when he really said, "I denounce any statements he made that were anti-semitic." Get the difference? I heard, "If you think he said something against Jews, then I denounce that."
I personally think it would be a bad move for Sen. Obama to make a definitive move away from anyone Black. I believe that he has so much support because he in an independent thinker and if he buckled to pressure to make a symbolic gesture to distance himself, he'd come off looking shady.
Try again CNN! We've been Black for too long to fall for this crap.
Blogroll do over - part 1
When I want to read people who blog what I would blog if I had the time (or the words left after my paying gig), I go to two spots.
Post Bourgie is so dope its' subtitle is "The Audacity of Dope". They first caught my eye because of my OBSESSION with The Wire. It's one of the only Black blogs that gets deep into it. Then I began poking around and found this crew of writers to be quite dope indeed.
Next is the eloquent, Lord Hannibal who is always on the verge of "The Breaking Point". I love his rantings and musings. Quality, thoughtful writing indeed.
Plenty more to come.
Post Bourgie is so dope its' subtitle is "The Audacity of Dope". They first caught my eye because of my OBSESSION with The Wire. It's one of the only Black blogs that gets deep into it. Then I began poking around and found this crew of writers to be quite dope indeed.
Next is the eloquent, Lord Hannibal who is always on the verge of "The Breaking Point". I love his rantings and musings. Quality, thoughtful writing indeed.
Plenty more to come.
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
So sorry, so sorry....
So sorry that I recommended this BULLSHIT!!!
Did you watch this long ass trainwreck last night?
How could you OBLITERATE a classic even with top notch actors (minus poutin' ass Puffy)? Well, they did it. I don't care what nobody says. They did WAY TOO MUCH and like a fool I kept watching, thinking it would get better. I had no idea it was THREE HOURS.
I'm done...as you were people...
Did you watch this long ass trainwreck last night?
How could you OBLITERATE a classic even with top notch actors (minus poutin' ass Puffy)? Well, they did it. I don't care what nobody says. They did WAY TOO MUCH and like a fool I kept watching, thinking it would get better. I had no idea it was THREE HOURS.
I'm done...as you were people...
Saturday, February 23, 2008
My 100th post...
I’d like to thank God, my parents, all the little people…ROFL!
This journey to blogging was a long one. I have always been a writer but I never kept a journal. I think I didn’t want to do anything else that was isolating and secretive. I’ve spent much of my life keeping family secrets and got tired of it so I have started to become much more open about my experiences. I’ve also adopted a new policy with family.
If you don’t want it told, don’t tell me.
I’m not going to be the one people can dump all their garbage on. I encourage everyone in family to just deal with it and not be 'shamed.
Anyway…the 100th post.
The toughest part about starting a blog was deciding how much to share and what else I had to say. I am not one of the many frustrated writers out there. I have PLENTY of outlets. As you know by now I own a bi-weekly newspaper, host and produce my own talk show and can contribute to the local daily whenever I want. But usually, that is stuff that is not too personal. I don’t put too much of myself out there for public scrutiny in my town/city. So this has been a place for me to be honestly me. Without being judged to harshly and criticized much.
In celebration of my hundredth post and after careful consideration, I’m going to gradually re-list what are now my favorite blogs and sites. As I browsed around, I found places that felt good to me. But after a while I began to feel ashamed that I was there. And then I felt guilty for recommending that you go there. So I just quit and said I’d start again someday. So be on the lookout for a new blogroll.
How long have you been blogging and do you know how many posts you've done?
This journey to blogging was a long one. I have always been a writer but I never kept a journal. I think I didn’t want to do anything else that was isolating and secretive. I’ve spent much of my life keeping family secrets and got tired of it so I have started to become much more open about my experiences. I’ve also adopted a new policy with family.
If you don’t want it told, don’t tell me.
I’m not going to be the one people can dump all their garbage on. I encourage everyone in family to just deal with it and not be 'shamed.
Anyway…the 100th post.
The toughest part about starting a blog was deciding how much to share and what else I had to say. I am not one of the many frustrated writers out there. I have PLENTY of outlets. As you know by now I own a bi-weekly newspaper, host and produce my own talk show and can contribute to the local daily whenever I want. But usually, that is stuff that is not too personal. I don’t put too much of myself out there for public scrutiny in my town/city. So this has been a place for me to be honestly me. Without being judged to harshly and criticized much.
In celebration of my hundredth post and after careful consideration, I’m going to gradually re-list what are now my favorite blogs and sites. As I browsed around, I found places that felt good to me. But after a while I began to feel ashamed that I was there. And then I felt guilty for recommending that you go there. So I just quit and said I’d start again someday. So be on the lookout for a new blogroll.
How long have you been blogging and do you know how many posts you've done?
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Reflections on my husband for his birthday
For my husband’s birthday, I had idea’s and plans…but no money. But I am lucky because my husband is one who prefers anything made by my hands over any restaurant or store bought anything.
I helped baby girl make him a card, made a great dinner and made his favorite dessert, chocolate cake and some strawberry-ish ice cream. Didn’t have strawberry money, but I had some strawberry extract, LOL.
Cooking from scratch has turned into a great passion of mine. As I try to resolve my weight issues once and for all, I realize that cooking for myself will be a big portion of the solution. Though cake and ice cream aren’t made for weight loss menu’s, it is good to control the amount of sugar and what ingredients are used. Also, there is just something loving about having people over to enjoy something you put your heart into and presenting a meal for your family each night that has your own unique spin on it.
Back to the birthday…
What is a strange coincidence is that my first husband's birthday was just one day before Hubby's. And all I can say is, "What a difference a day makes!"
As I grow, I see my husband differently. I am always in admiration of his intelligence and conviction. He’s not a punk about ANYTHING. He takes a stand for stuff that I may initially think to be “nothing”. But he sees the big picture all the time and can quickly tell how allowing just that one thing to slide is going to have a ripple effect that you won’t want to be on the end of. I appreciate him allowing me to be me, while challenging me to strive to do more and better than the day before.
Back to his birthday…
But I really see in him what I was missing; a partner who was as passionate about Black people as I was and still am. Someone who lives, breathes and will die thinking about how we can make our existence here in the wilderness of North America better. Each year as his wisdom and delivery become more refined, I sit and marvel. He is a gift to us all and I know he was especially made for me to love.
I helped baby girl make him a card, made a great dinner and made his favorite dessert, chocolate cake and some strawberry-ish ice cream. Didn’t have strawberry money, but I had some strawberry extract, LOL.
Cooking from scratch has turned into a great passion of mine. As I try to resolve my weight issues once and for all, I realize that cooking for myself will be a big portion of the solution. Though cake and ice cream aren’t made for weight loss menu’s, it is good to control the amount of sugar and what ingredients are used. Also, there is just something loving about having people over to enjoy something you put your heart into and presenting a meal for your family each night that has your own unique spin on it.
Back to the birthday…
What is a strange coincidence is that my first husband's birthday was just one day before Hubby's. And all I can say is, "What a difference a day makes!"
As I grow, I see my husband differently. I am always in admiration of his intelligence and conviction. He’s not a punk about ANYTHING. He takes a stand for stuff that I may initially think to be “nothing”. But he sees the big picture all the time and can quickly tell how allowing just that one thing to slide is going to have a ripple effect that you won’t want to be on the end of. I appreciate him allowing me to be me, while challenging me to strive to do more and better than the day before.
Back to his birthday…
But I really see in him what I was missing; a partner who was as passionate about Black people as I was and still am. Someone who lives, breathes and will die thinking about how we can make our existence here in the wilderness of North America better. Each year as his wisdom and delivery become more refined, I sit and marvel. He is a gift to us all and I know he was especially made for me to love.
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
What's good in The D
Detroit is more than crime and Kwame.
It's a place that nurtured me and taught me that the Black experience is as diverse as snowflakes. No two people or their stories are ever the same.
My sister is a minister (not a pastor) and each year her church serves as a warming station for the homeless. This is not her church but you can see that it's done across the city.
For a week each church uses their resources to provide for the homeless. Her church does soup and sandwiches and provides blankets and I think some cots. She said some have jobs and need an early wake up. She also said that there is a very organized group that provides them with online information and flyers so they know which churches are open and on which bus line. Though the city is ranked the poorest and many don't have much, we share what we've got and we take care of our own.
It's a place that nurtured me and taught me that the Black experience is as diverse as snowflakes. No two people or their stories are ever the same.
My sister is a minister (not a pastor) and each year her church serves as a warming station for the homeless. This is not her church but you can see that it's done across the city.
For a week each church uses their resources to provide for the homeless. Her church does soup and sandwiches and provides blankets and I think some cots. She said some have jobs and need an early wake up. She also said that there is a very organized group that provides them with online information and flyers so they know which churches are open and on which bus line. Though the city is ranked the poorest and many don't have much, we share what we've got and we take care of our own.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Nick Jr. is the debil too!
It's more than Disney. I could go on about a bunch but let's also take a look at Nick Jr. and their insistence on eliminating the positive images of Blacks. I came back to this because I was speaking to a local author who published a series of books that show images of how Blacks have been portrayed over the years. She not only collects Black memorabilia but all "happy meal toys" from McD's and a lot of Disney and other toy-type items. She is 58 and when I finished sharing my sentiments, she said in a low voice. "You just helped me see what was right in front of my own eyes." In her book on the Black child, she shared that often Blacks were shown as animals (mainly crows and bears) in children's books. And it's still going on, just subtly. She hadn't paid attention to what was on TV for children because she doesn't have any. She said to me, "They don't even want our images in front of their own children so they make us animals."
Exhibit A: Positive Black images
Gullah Gullah Island was a great show on from December 1994 - January 1998. The show is no longer on nor are the DVD's still available in retail stores. (I hear reruns are on Noggin but I don't get that channel) Total run: About 3 years.
Little Bill showed a great family life with real stories. Aired September 2000-September 2002. No DVD's available and was on CBS on and off on Sunday's. Total run: 2 years
Exhibit B: Other minorities and Black's animals
Dora the Explorer has been running non-stop since 1999 and they made a spin-off show, Go Diego Go in 2005. Both are Latino and teach Spanglish. Total run: 8 years and still going.
The Backyardigans were created by a sister and features some Black voices, but they are little creatures and not real children. Running strong since 2004.
The whole point that I'm making is that if you even WANT to expose your children to positive images of themselves to spark their imagination and creativity (before they are able to read) then it is a hard and arduous task.
Exhibit A: Positive Black images
Gullah Gullah Island was a great show on from December 1994 - January 1998. The show is no longer on nor are the DVD's still available in retail stores. (I hear reruns are on Noggin but I don't get that channel) Total run: About 3 years.
Little Bill showed a great family life with real stories. Aired September 2000-September 2002. No DVD's available and was on CBS on and off on Sunday's. Total run: 2 years
Exhibit B: Other minorities and Black's animals
Dora the Explorer has been running non-stop since 1999 and they made a spin-off show, Go Diego Go in 2005. Both are Latino and teach Spanglish. Total run: 8 years and still going.
The Backyardigans were created by a sister and features some Black voices, but they are little creatures and not real children. Running strong since 2004.
The whole point that I'm making is that if you even WANT to expose your children to positive images of themselves to spark their imagination and creativity (before they are able to read) then it is a hard and arduous task.
I taken all I can stand...
...and I can't stand no more!
I just blogged about people who put others down for doin' themselves and here I go...I don't mind it when you do you, but don't make the kids do your nonsense too!
Let me explain...overall, I think Disney is the debil. Flat out.
Historically, I have problems with it because my family owned land in Florida that Disney World now rests its trillion dollar ass-sets on and we ain't rich from the buy out. (Can you say stolen wealth?) But I digressed.
Disney is the debil for the promotion of white only princesses and tales. Everything that was meant to be about "us" was turned into talking animals. You know the Lion King was 'bout a Black boy. All them Black voices...in Africa...please.
Disney is the debil for making Deborah's Cheetah Girls a multicultural mess and robbing her of her dough.
Disney is the debil for how they made Quincey on The Little Einstien's. The show would've been cool but why does the Black boy have to be chubby and a whiz on every single instrument?
Disney is the debil for making Cinderella starring (and exec. produced) by Whitney Houston and Brandy a TV, then straight to DVD movie instead of a big screen version.
But of course, this is my view. One that is also fairly popular on the Black Home School Yahoo! groups.
But for the life of me I don't get how we ALLOW our Black daughters (and even son's) to "idolize" this little Hanna Montana. Her acting and singing are average and I'm not even trippin' on that because so was Raven Symone's.
The ish that irks me is the t-shirts, the posters, the concerts, the movies, THE OBSESSION. We ABSOLUTELY can control that. I don't want my daughter to have posters up of anyone who doesn't look like her or a blood relative.
I know that is may be unpopular or even seem harsh to some here who have fallen in love with these here "United States", but I've been in this country my entire life and spend a lot of time talking to my elders about their upbringing and experiences. I pride myself in having Black friends from all over the planet. And as I talk to them I realize that I have adopted 'traditional' values. Ones that are normal for people who grew up 'right' in this place and other parts of the world.
Is the Hanna thing just fun? I don't think so. It's not for us!!! It's a cool thing for someone else, but not us.
I had posters on my wall from Right On! Magazine. Dwayne from What's Happening, Prince and The Fat Boys were on my walls in junior high. My white neighbors had white people on their walls. Everybody kept it real. We had the Jackson's, they had the Osmond's. They liked the Partridge Family and so did we, but they had the posters and we didn't.
I just couldn't take it when someone's son asked me if my TV got Hanna Montana. Then my good friends blog showed her niece and crew all Hannah'd out (at least I didn't do this on your blog girl, LOL) I had a moment and I'm back.
Hate me if you like...I've put it to rest now and won't reply to any posts. I'd love to hear your take, but my mind is made up on this one!
I just blogged about people who put others down for doin' themselves and here I go...I don't mind it when you do you, but don't make the kids do your nonsense too!
Let me explain...overall, I think Disney is the debil. Flat out.
Historically, I have problems with it because my family owned land in Florida that Disney World now rests its trillion dollar ass-sets on and we ain't rich from the buy out. (Can you say stolen wealth?) But I digressed.
Disney is the debil for the promotion of white only princesses and tales. Everything that was meant to be about "us" was turned into talking animals. You know the Lion King was 'bout a Black boy. All them Black voices...in Africa...please.
Disney is the debil for making Deborah's Cheetah Girls a multicultural mess and robbing her of her dough.
Disney is the debil for how they made Quincey on The Little Einstien's. The show would've been cool but why does the Black boy have to be chubby and a whiz on every single instrument?
Disney is the debil for making Cinderella starring (and exec. produced) by Whitney Houston and Brandy a TV, then straight to DVD movie instead of a big screen version.
But of course, this is my view. One that is also fairly popular on the Black Home School Yahoo! groups.
But for the life of me I don't get how we ALLOW our Black daughters (and even son's) to "idolize" this little Hanna Montana. Her acting and singing are average and I'm not even trippin' on that because so was Raven Symone's.
The ish that irks me is the t-shirts, the posters, the concerts, the movies, THE OBSESSION. We ABSOLUTELY can control that. I don't want my daughter to have posters up of anyone who doesn't look like her or a blood relative.
I know that is may be unpopular or even seem harsh to some here who have fallen in love with these here "United States", but I've been in this country my entire life and spend a lot of time talking to my elders about their upbringing and experiences. I pride myself in having Black friends from all over the planet. And as I talk to them I realize that I have adopted 'traditional' values. Ones that are normal for people who grew up 'right' in this place and other parts of the world.
Is the Hanna thing just fun? I don't think so. It's not for us!!! It's a cool thing for someone else, but not us.
I had posters on my wall from Right On! Magazine. Dwayne from What's Happening, Prince and The Fat Boys were on my walls in junior high. My white neighbors had white people on their walls. Everybody kept it real. We had the Jackson's, they had the Osmond's. They liked the Partridge Family and so did we, but they had the posters and we didn't.
I just couldn't take it when someone's son asked me if my TV got Hanna Montana. Then my good friends blog showed her niece and crew all Hannah'd out (at least I didn't do this on your blog girl, LOL) I had a moment and I'm back.
Hate me if you like...I've put it to rest now and won't reply to any posts. I'd love to hear your take, but my mind is made up on this one!
The land of Lincoln
Our state is battling with two others as the place that should have official claim to Lincoln. There are HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS being spent to celebrate his 200th birthday NEXT year.
This though, is classic and reflects what I WISH I could witness in real life...have a laugh...
This though, is classic and reflects what I WISH I could witness in real life...have a laugh...
Sunday, February 10, 2008
What really matters...
There were a bunch of things that I was thinking about the past few days and I was so excited thinking about blogging about them.
But this morning my daughter woke up especially alert and I embraced the teachable moment and we had reading class.
My baby girl is 3yo and 5 mos. now and knows her upper and lower case letters and all sounds. For about a week and a half we've been working on blending sounds so she can read her first words.
TODAY SHE DID IT!
She read at, sat, fat, bat, cat, rat, pat, hat, mat and Pat.
I had her go wake her father up and he came in all sleepy eyed to listen to her read her first words.
What a great morning!
The curriculum I've been using for reading and writing is Hooked on Phonics: Hooked on Kindergarten Wally-World has the best price I've found at $99 and they will deliver it to the store for you to pick up. I started this in January.
To learn letters and sounds I used flash cards, Alphabooks
and Fridge Phonics. I've been using the cards and books since about 2 years old and the Fridge Phonics for several months (I think since the summer?)
I think I'm going to start a homeschooling blog over on Wordpress. I wanted to move this blog over there but it's too much trouble b/c I'd lose photos etc.
But while I'm thinking about it, I'll just savor this wonderful moment in time.
Sunday, February 10, 2008 my baby-girl read her first words.
But this morning my daughter woke up especially alert and I embraced the teachable moment and we had reading class.
My baby girl is 3yo and 5 mos. now and knows her upper and lower case letters and all sounds. For about a week and a half we've been working on blending sounds so she can read her first words.
TODAY SHE DID IT!
She read at, sat, fat, bat, cat, rat, pat, hat, mat and Pat.
I had her go wake her father up and he came in all sleepy eyed to listen to her read her first words.
What a great morning!
The curriculum I've been using for reading and writing is Hooked on Phonics: Hooked on Kindergarten Wally-World has the best price I've found at $99 and they will deliver it to the store for you to pick up. I started this in January.
To learn letters and sounds I used flash cards, Alphabooks
and Fridge Phonics. I've been using the cards and books since about 2 years old and the Fridge Phonics for several months (I think since the summer?)
I think I'm going to start a homeschooling blog over on Wordpress. I wanted to move this blog over there but it's too much trouble b/c I'd lose photos etc.
But while I'm thinking about it, I'll just savor this wonderful moment in time.
Sunday, February 10, 2008 my baby-girl read her first words.
Thursday, February 7, 2008
Monday, February 4, 2008
No blame in my game!
Ahhh...the blame game. You know people who attempt to blame all of their problems away.
Their parents, their school, their neighborhood, their co-workers, their in-laws, the system, the man, other Black people.....everyone but themselves.
It reminds me of the people I talked about in my last post. When you permit others to just be and allow them some room and time to grow, you are giving yourself permission to do the same.
Quit judging and get to work on you. Quit being embarrassed by others actions.
As always, I'm speaking to myself and anyone else who needs to hear.
Their parents, their school, their neighborhood, their co-workers, their in-laws, the system, the man, other Black people.....everyone but themselves.
It reminds me of the people I talked about in my last post. When you permit others to just be and allow them some room and time to grow, you are giving yourself permission to do the same.
Quit judging and get to work on you. Quit being embarrassed by others actions.
As always, I'm speaking to myself and anyone else who needs to hear.
Saturday, February 2, 2008
No shame in my game!
I lived a life filled with shame for years. As a child, I was ashamed by many things that were not in my control. In my twenties, I was ashamed of all that I did not know and was afraid people would label me a fraud for my ignorance. In my early thirties, I was ashamed of being a "sinner" and didn't want anyone to find out all that I was doing that was against my religious teaching.
But somewhere along the way I realized that I could defeat the feeling of shame with hard work. If I work hard to resolve whatever I am ashamed of, I replace the feeling of shame with pride. Pride in my striving to be better. And eventually pride in my accomplishments.
As I read blogs, I find a lot of writers who are claiming to be loving and caring all while attempting to mask being mean people. I read a lot of judgmental and harsh words aimed at those who are "ghetto" or who "keep a nasty house" or who "are too damn fat" or other things that the writer is not in control of.
Don't allow yourself to read thinly disguised harmful and hateful words. Read words that make you laugh, lift you up or otherwise give you what you need.
But above all, don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of your shortcomings. Your shortcomings are a grand opportunity for growth. Which we all need to do.
Be challenged and have no SHAME!
But somewhere along the way I realized that I could defeat the feeling of shame with hard work. If I work hard to resolve whatever I am ashamed of, I replace the feeling of shame with pride. Pride in my striving to be better. And eventually pride in my accomplishments.
As I read blogs, I find a lot of writers who are claiming to be loving and caring all while attempting to mask being mean people. I read a lot of judgmental and harsh words aimed at those who are "ghetto" or who "keep a nasty house" or who "are too damn fat" or other things that the writer is not in control of.
Don't allow yourself to read thinly disguised harmful and hateful words. Read words that make you laugh, lift you up or otherwise give you what you need.
But above all, don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of your shortcomings. Your shortcomings are a grand opportunity for growth. Which we all need to do.
Be challenged and have no SHAME!
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