Saturday, February 2, 2008

No shame in my game!

I lived a life filled with shame for years. As a child, I was ashamed by many things that were not in my control. In my twenties, I was ashamed of all that I did not know and was afraid people would label me a fraud for my ignorance. In my early thirties, I was ashamed of being a "sinner" and didn't want anyone to find out all that I was doing that was against my religious teaching.

But somewhere along the way I realized that I could defeat the feeling of shame with hard work. If I work hard to resolve whatever I am ashamed of, I replace the feeling of shame with pride. Pride in my striving to be better. And eventually pride in my accomplishments.

As I read blogs, I find a lot of writers who are claiming to be loving and caring all while attempting to mask being mean people. I read a lot of judgmental and harsh words aimed at those who are "ghetto" or who "keep a nasty house" or who "are too damn fat" or other things that the writer is not in control of.

Don't allow yourself to read thinly disguised harmful and hateful words. Read words that make you laugh, lift you up or otherwise give you what you need.

But above all, don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of your shortcomings. Your shortcomings are a grand opportunity for growth. Which we all need to do.

Be challenged and have no SHAME!


Smell Goods '98™ said...

Growth is a wonderful thing. Thank you for sharing your Free Advice.


clnmike said...

No shame in my game I am a mutha.

Brother OMi said...

as a young blood, i was ashamed of my heritage and who i was. I am thankful for my late teens and early twenties when i was like "i am proud"

since then i have not looked back.

people are ill sometimes, it sux. instead of judging, we should help..

Don said...

I still hold shame within for some things I have done in my life. I wish i could have stayed gold but that's not the way the ball bounced.

I took the ball and became a ball player.

No shame, whatsoever.

Play the game...never let the game play you.

Bridgette Alyce said...

Words of wisdom! Thank you for the confirmation of truths I believe.

Lola Gets said...

Ayuh, no shame here!
Im proud to be a real, authentic, human with all the wonders and faults that it entails!