I lived a life filled with shame for years. As a child, I was ashamed by many things that were not in my control. In my twenties, I was ashamed of all that I did not know and was afraid people would label me a fraud for my ignorance. In my early thirties, I was ashamed of being a "sinner" and didn't want anyone to find out all that I was doing that was against my religious teaching.
But somewhere along the way I realized that I could defeat the feeling of shame with hard work. If I work hard to resolve whatever I am ashamed of, I replace the feeling of shame with pride. Pride in my striving to be better. And eventually pride in my accomplishments.
As I read blogs, I find a lot of writers who are claiming to be loving and caring all while attempting to mask being mean people. I read a lot of judgmental and harsh words aimed at those who are "ghetto" or who "keep a nasty house" or who "are too damn fat" or other things that the writer is not in control of.
Don't allow yourself to read thinly disguised harmful and hateful words. Read words that make you laugh, lift you up or otherwise give you what you need.
But above all, don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of your shortcomings. Your shortcomings are a grand opportunity for growth. Which we all need to do.
Be challenged and have no SHAME!