Thursday, April 24, 2008

ONE YEAR BLOG ANNIVERSARY!!!!

Wow! Just a few months ago I celebrated my 100th post and now my 1 year anniversary!
I remember coming into this with a few apprehensions. One of them being the fact that I am "known" in my town. I didn't want anyone to stumble upon this and exploit anything I wrote. But I had to let that thought go. I tell the truth here. My truth. My feelings. My opinions. I own them and therefore can have no fear, embarrassment or shame about anything I put here.

Blogging is a gift that I gave to myself. A place to be "me". And each day I am getting closer to realizing who that is.

I chose the name Fascinating Womanhood based on a book that I try to model myself after. It is a controversial book, as many "enlightened" women feel that it puts women's liberation back 100 years. But I see it as a chance to reclaim some of the femininity and womanly charm that escapes us as we navigate through this hellacious place we call America. Black woman are often called hard and bitchy but we often find ourselves out here unprotected and we have to toughen up to make it through the day. So when a man comes along, we don't always no how to act and we challenge his manhood unknowingly and it causes arguments, resentment and loss of loving feelings and a withholding of intimacy (not just sex).

I think that I am a fascinating woman. I founded a newspaper, pitched a radio show to a sponsor and then a radio station and I now have a show that I also own. I sew window treatments and reupholster chairs for my home. I cook most things from scratch including bread, cakes, pies, pesto, salsa, egg rolls and many other tasty treats. I homeschool my daughter and at 39 I still have hopes to have 2 more children. I am happily married to a man who CHOSE me. He waited 12 years for me. He also trusted me with $10K to start our company and now we are both home working and schooling our daughter. And each day I strive to speak a little more kindly and softly in my home. And each day I strive to be little more tidy. And give a little more of myself and I don't think that there is anything wrong with that!

I have all of this now and wouldn't change a thing in my crazy hectic past, because my life may have turned out differently.

In my first post I said, "...I want to give perspective on being a working Black woman. I think we give too many excuses for what we don't accomplish. The truth is; if it is important to us, we get to it. If we really don't give a damn, but it's important to someone else, we make excuses. If we don't give a damn and no one else gives a damn, we just skip it."

and

"Most of us can do way more than we are doing and I'm looking to be inspired by those who are living their best life or at least striving."

I have been inspired by many of you and hope that something I do or say here can do the same for you. I am all about continuing to make positive progress.

To my most loyal commenter Don, I thank you. I always look forward to what you have to say because I know you really read what I wrote.

To Smells Good '98, I'm glad you found me on that message board. I feel a kinship to you as a working, homeschooling mother and wife. You are doing it Sis!

I can't name everyone, but you are all special to me for even checking a sister out and taking the time to comment.

If you have read this far down and are a "lurker" who has never commented here, please introduce yourself. I'd love to know you're out there!

Peace and love yall!

(It's almost my birthday!!!)

10 comments:

Smell Goods '98™ said...

Woo, woo, woo, YES, I also feel that kinship with you! As I read your post, I always envision that you and I are talking over a cup of Chai. Honestly.

Fascinating Woman. It is one thing to be a woman, but another to be a lady. Not many "black" woman can grasp that. Most of us do not realize the power within, the power that we hold when being a lady.

...So when a man comes along, we don't always no how to act and we challenge his manhood unknowingly and it causes arguments, resentment and loss of loving feelings and a withholding of intimacy (not just sex). ....

Yes, I agree with that 110%.

Congratulations on 1 year of blogging!

Sister P said...

Thanks for reading and sharing ((((big hug)))) from Sister P!

Brother OMi said...

good on ya mate...
kudos

much props

100 posts and 1 year. thats alot (not to mention the other stuff you are doing and still holding it down as ma dukes and the misses...)

stay you

Lakisa Muhammad said...

Sister, that book changed my life. I recommend it to anyone who will listen! Congrats on all you accomplishments. May Allah continue to bless you and your family.

Sis Lakisa

Don said...

Happy Blog Anniversary !!

I'm willing to bet each and every last one of your post are meaningful.



So when a man comes along, we don't always no how to act and we challenge his manhood unknowingly and it causes arguments, resentment and loss of loving feelings and a withholding of intimacy (not just sex). I second this. I can't begin to tell you how many females I've encountered who I feel have a serious problem with doing this. I'm 35, and it kinda bothers me cause I think @ such an age, both women and men should be filled with wisdom.


I think you are fascinating too. I think you have a firm grip on reality, plus I have a weakness for female editors. lol. You are extremely intelligent, so I'm drawn to that. I try to learn things from you.

"Most of us can do way more than we are doing and I'm looking to be inspired by those who are living their best life or at least striving." You took the words right out of my mouth.


Thanks for noticing me. lol. *warm hug*

Sister P said...

@Brother Omi- you are one of the best things about my blogging experience. Meeting people who share a passion for writing, hip-hop and all things Black. You being you makes me feel ok being me! So YOU stay YOU!

@Lakisa- I first heard about that book from some white women when I was in Amway back in the the early 90's (before your time, lol) and was glad to find it recommended reading when I became an MGT. It has not changed my life "yet". Life has hardened me and I'm trying to chip away at the shell, but I'm trying sis. Glad to have met you, your blog is toooooo cute and your children adorable. You keep striving!

@Don-as usual I was checking for your post!!
You said -"I'm 35, and it kinda bothers me cause I think @ such an age, both women and men should be filled with wisdom."

How is WISH I was wise at 35. At 39 I'm approaching it. Unfortunately, I yell and cuss and "act a damn fool" more often than I should. But the only difference is at 39 I see it as a character weakness on MY part and try to stop doing it. At 35 I thought that ish was cool and BRAGGED about it! I've heard sisters say that marriage is the most humbling experience you will have if you are striving to be right. Your mate will be a perfect reflection of your strengths and weaknesses. So what you're looking at that annoys you in them is you looking back at you and that can be scary and humbling.
{{respectful bow}} Thanks for always checking in.

Don said...

and that can be scary and humbling. lol. i can understand what you mean. not married, but i lived with my kids mom for 9 years. so i definitely feel you.

i think i am becoming wise now. i am forced to make better decisions. i wish i woke up three years ago, but its never too late.

i'm bothered because i am hopeful about marriage.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

im just vdriving by but much respect and congrats on your 1 yr aniverssary. have a great weekend

Sister P said...

@ all-mi-t-Thanks for stopping by, you are always welcome. I am going to check out your books (from Lovebabz recommendation). Much peace!!

shelia said...

Happy Anniversary!!!