Wow! Just a few months ago I celebrated my 100th post and now my 1 year anniversary!
I remember coming into this with a few apprehensions. One of them being the fact that I am "known" in my town. I didn't want anyone to stumble upon this and exploit anything I wrote. But I had to let that thought go. I tell the truth here. My truth. My feelings. My opinions. I own them and therefore can have no fear, embarrassment or shame about anything I put here.
Blogging is a gift that I gave to myself. A place to be "me". And each day I am getting closer to realizing who that is.
I chose the name Fascinating Womanhood based on a book that I try to model myself after. It is a controversial book, as many "enlightened" women feel that it puts women's liberation back 100 years. But I see it as a chance to reclaim some of the femininity and womanly charm that escapes us as we navigate through this hellacious place we call America. Black woman are often called hard and bitchy but we often find ourselves out here unprotected and we have to toughen up to make it through the day. So when a man comes along, we don't always no how to act and we challenge his manhood unknowingly and it causes arguments, resentment and loss of loving feelings and a withholding of intimacy (not just sex).
I think that I am a fascinating woman. I founded a newspaper, pitched a radio show to a sponsor and then a radio station and I now have a show that I also own. I sew window treatments and reupholster chairs for my home. I cook most things from scratch including bread, cakes, pies, pesto, salsa, egg rolls and many other tasty treats. I homeschool my daughter and at 39 I still have hopes to have 2 more children. I am happily married to a man who CHOSE me. He waited 12 years for me. He also trusted me with $10K to start our company and now we are both home working and schooling our daughter. And each day I strive to speak a little more kindly and softly in my home. And each day I strive to be little more tidy. And give a little more of myself and I don't think that there is anything wrong with that!
I have all of this now and wouldn't change a thing in my crazy hectic past, because my life may have turned out differently.
In my first post I said, "...I want to give perspective on being a working Black woman. I think we give too many excuses for what we don't accomplish. The truth is; if it is important to us, we get to it. If we really don't give a damn, but it's important to someone else, we make excuses. If we don't give a damn and no one else gives a damn, we just skip it."
"Most of us can do way more than we are doing and I'm looking to be inspired by those who are living their best life or at least striving."
I have been inspired by many of you and hope that something I do or say here can do the same for you. I am all about continuing to make positive progress.
To my most loyal commenter Don, I thank you. I always look forward to what you have to say because I know you really read what I wrote.
To Smells Good '98, I'm glad you found me on that message board. I feel a kinship to you as a working, homeschooling mother and wife. You are doing it Sis!
I can't name everyone, but you are all special to me for even checking a sister out and taking the time to comment.
If you have read this far down and are a "lurker" who has never commented here, please introduce yourself. I'd love to know you're out there!
Peace and love yall!
(It's almost my birthday!!!)